LADIES BEWARE: Don't marry any man who does these four things

MUST READ FOR ALL LADIES!! Don’t Marry Your Boyfriend If He Does These 4 Things

Ladies, do not make excuses and say you didn’t know when enough was enough.
Here are 4 red flags that should give you the key to exit the relationship, as soon as you can.



1. He cheats
Many people will say this point is debatable because lots of couples who have fidelity issues repair their relationship and end up better than where they were pre-cheating. But it’s not the act of cheating that’s the deal-breaker here; it’s the disrespect, broken trust and significant risk to your health. (Hello, STDS!) With all the risks that hang in the balance for just a tiny bit of pleasure, it’s entirely inconsiderate and selfish when a man cheats on you. Do you want someone who puts his wants before your needs, like security and trust? You should not, which is why you have to say BYE to cheating men.

2. He gets violent, even if he doesn’t hit you
You may think this is a no-brainer but honestly it isn’t. Most women I know who’ve been in abusive relationships have immense strength, only to shut down in the presence of her partner’s anger and violence.  No healthy relationship can be built off a foundation of fear because you never know when his actions may escalate.

3. He doesn’t claim or proclaim you
Many women will spend time in limbo-like relationships with guys who won’t give them the girlfriend title. Here’s the truth: If you’ve been dating a man for longer than six to nine months and he hasn’t made you an official part of his life, it’s time to MOVE ON. Stop making excuses for why things aren’t progressing to the next level; you’ll only waste time and your time is worth more than that. Don’t settle for less because you don’t want a man who makes you a bargain-bin find. If he knows your worth, he’ll claim and proclaim you and there will be few conversations about how ‘he isn’t ready.’

4. He suffers from addiction
There are plenty of honor badges to be earned by standing by your man when he’s fallen on hard times. But CAUTION if you stick with a man fighting demons, namely addiction. Addiction can range from less-severe, like cigarettes, to major issues such as drug, alcohol, pornography and sex. Someone who suffers from an addiction will do anything – and I mean anything – to get their fix, even at the expense of those they love. So unless you’d like to be second to whatever vices he has, it may be time to ‘leave smoke.’

20 Ways to Make a Girl Smile

20 Ways to Make a Girl Smile

1. Tell her she's BEAUTIFUL. Not hot or Sexy.

2. Hold her hand, just because you love her.

3. Leave her voice messages to wake up to.

4. Wrestle with her, and let her win.

5. Hug her from behind.

6. Don't hang out with your ex when she's not around. It kills her inside.

7. If you talk to another girl, walk over to her after you're done and kiss her. 

8. Write her notes ...or call her just to say I love you.

9. Introduce her to your friends, as your girlfriend.

10. Play with her hair.

11. Pick her up, even when she says no.

12. Get upset if she gets unwanted contact from someone else.

13. Make her laugh, just because you love to see her smile.

14. Let her fall asleep in your arms.

15. If she's mad at you, kiss her, don't fight back.

16. If you care about her, tell her, or else she won't come back.

17. Every girl should receive three presents from her guy: a teddy bear (she'll hug it when she goes to sleep), jewellery (she'll treasure it forever), and one of your shirts (she'll wear it to bed).

18. Treat her same with your friends as when you are alone.

19. Look her in the eyes and give her your best smile.

20. Hang out with her on the weekends, because she's important to you. Abi shey no b so girls?

Photos of the 14 foreigners arrested for oil bunkering in Nigeria

Photos of the 14 foreigners arrested for oil bunkering in Nigeria

 

Here are the 14 foreign nationals that were yesterday June 10 arraigned before a Federal High Court in Lagos by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC, for engaging in oil bunkering in Nigeria. The men are from Russia, Ukraine, Japan and the UK. Another photo after the cut

Photo: 2 Anambra Uni students found dead after using sex enhancing drug

Photo: 2 Anambra Uni students found dead after using sex enhancing drug

 

Two students of a University in Anambra State were found dead in a hostel room located near their school, according to a report by Daily Independent. (the late lovers pictured pictured above)

The female student is from Imo State. She visited her boy friend and they went in together on Saturday but never woke up until their doors were forced open by the police after a neighbor raised the alarm. The male student was 300level student of public administration. They allegedly died after sex romp and their neighbors never knew until their bodies started decomposing.

The guy allegedly drugged the girl to have access to free sex which resulted to her death and he equally took the pills and lay beside her. 

Special Anti Robbery Squad (SARS) from Awkuzu removed both bodies and deposited then at an undisclosed morgue.

The Police Public Relation Officer (PPRO), DSP Uche Ezeh while reacting to the incident said investigations were ongoing to ascertain the veracity of the case but confirmed the incident while charting with Daily Independent Metro.

Source: Daily Independent

Photos: 3 kidnappers paraded naked in Osun after they are caught with their victim

Photos: 3 kidnappers paraded naked in Osun after they are caught with their victim 

   

Three young men named Femi, Tunmise and a third unidentified guy were caught yesterday June 10th as they tried to escape in their Mazda car with a school girl they had kidnapped who was in the booth of their car. The young men are alleged to be final year students of the prestigious Obafemi Awolowo University.

Some suspicious people alerted police to the guys after suspecting they had taken the girl. The police then chased and caught them around Makuro road in Ile-Ife, where the kidnapped girl was found inside the booth of their car, bound. An angry mob descended on them but they were rescued before they could be killed. Their car was however badly damaged. They boys are currently in the state Police headquarter Oshogbo. More photos after the cut...


        

"I'm not God, but I won't recognize Saraki as Senate President- Bola Tinubu

"I'm not God, but I won't recognize Saraki as Senate President- Bola Tinubu

 APC leader Senator Bola Tinubu yesterday June 10th reacted to the emergence of Senator Bukola Saraki as the new Senate President, saying he cannot recognize the Kangaroo arrangement that produced Saraki as the new Senate President. Speaking at the party secretariat, Tinubu said

"I will never recognize such a kangaroo arrangement that produced Bukola as the Senate President. Or how do you want me to recognise a man who deliberately defied his own party because of his personal interest? It is not done anywhere. Therefore, recognizing Bukola as the Senate President after all he had done to our party today, having gone against the wish and pattern of our great party, honestly will amount to endorsing impunity, and which you should all know I will not.
For me to recognize Senator Bukola as the Senate President, he must show remorse for today’s action. He had earlier promised to defy the party and the deed has been done. You don’t do that in politics. Personal interest must not override that of the party that beget you. It’s a spoken and silent rule of the game, which all and sundry must abide with. I’m not God, but as far as this party is concerned, I’m a leader and I know what is good for the party at the appropriate time. Speaking now is not for the party, but for myself. I cannot recognize Bukola as the Senate President.” he said

30 Rules for Men

30 RULES FOR MEN

1. Don’t ever beat your wife for any reason. Prov. 19:11, Prov. 20:3

2. Don’t ever forget that your wife is your greatest asset. Prov. 12:4, Prov. 18:22

3. Don’t ever forget to check the level of peace of your wife. Prov. 27:17

4. Don’t associate with men that lack credibility and generational mindset. Prov.13:20

5. Don’t ever hurt your wife no matter the level of insults passed on you. Col. 3:19, 1Pet. 2:19-20

6. Don’t ever wave off the ideas, advice or suggestions of your wife because of your selfish interest. Pro. 1:5, Pro.19:20

7. Never treat your wife as a servant. Eph. 5:29

8. Never make your wife a negative case study before friends and family.

Prov. 5:18, Prov. 21:23

9. Never doubt your wife no matter what you know about her past. 1Cor. 13:5.

10. Don’t deny your wife of sex. 1Cor. 7:4-5.

11. Don’t be careless about the welfare of your home. 1Tim. 5:8

12. Don’t compare your wife with anyone. 2Cor. 10:12

13. Never cheat on your wife no matter the condition. Prov. 6:32, Prov. 5:20

14. Never cut short the love you showed to your wife, rather, water it, and nurture it for effective continuous growing. Eph. 5:28-29

15. Never disregard the effort of your wife, rather appreciate her more and more. Prov. 31:28b

16. Never discuss the weak points of your wife at public opinion polls. Prov. 5:17

17. Don’t call your wife unpleasant names such as prostitute, witch, fruitless entity, harlot, useless wife, bastard, rather call her blessed, precious, capable, beautiful and virtuous woman. Col. 4:6, Prov. 31:28-29

18. NEVER EVER PLACE YOUR FRIENDS, FAMILY OR WORK ABOVE YOUR WIFE.

19. Don’t be self centred. Eph. 5:28, Phil. 2:3-4

20. Don’t ever cook up plans against your wife because of your lustful desires.

21. Never set up a family without having a family vision. Prov. 29:18, Hab. 2:2-3

22. Never make your wife feel inferior and uneducated before your friends, family, anyone or even you the husband.

23. Never compare your wife’s attitude with your one time girlfriend’s attitude. 2Cor.10:12

24. Don’t be lazy to cater for your wife and family. 1Tim. 5:8

25. Never allow money to be the bond of love in your marriage. 1Tim. 6:10

26. Never allow your parents or family members to dictate the affairs of your home, remember, ‘’therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife………’’. Gen. 2:23-24.

27. Don’t ever let your children come between you and your wife. You married your wife not your children, remember they have their life to live and when married and gone, only your wife will still be with you, to cook for you, comfort you, refresh your body, soul and spirit in the bedroom. Matt. 19:6

28. Never hide any phone calls, text messages, or password to mailbox from your wife. Transparency is the ultimate key to continuous trust and confidence in marriage. Rom. 12:9-10

29. Never owe your wife anything, always give her the very best; best in love, best care, most precious things and that which belongs to her. Rom.13:8

30. Never show a heart of ungratefulness to God and your precious wife, always and always be ever grateful for their presence in your life. Prov. 31:28b

7 Signs Your Girlfriend Won't be Your Wife

1. SHE'S DEPENDENT- She depends on you for everything. When she wants to buy the smallest thing, she dials your number and asks you to buy it for her. When she wants to make any important decision, she stalls and waits till you see each other. When she needs to do things she should be able to handle on her own, she keeps waiting for you to come make the decision for her, then you need to think twice. There is nothing bad in making decisions together or helping her buy stuff but everything is wrong when it happens all of the time. A wife needs to be independent. Be able to run the home when her husband isn’t home and make important decisions when he is busy. You need an independent one not a dependent person. It is a wife you want not a pet.

2. HER DRESSING- believe it or not, a wife needs to apply a bit of modesty in her dressing when she gets married. Now, easy as it is to say she’d change her closet full of skimpy and semi Unclad clothes when she says I do, she needs to begin to change it now. You can only be used to things you have started practising. There’s a difference between a wife and a prostitute. If your wife dresses like a video vixen all the time or like a stripper, then expect no respect whatsoever when you are out together. Besides, when the kids start coming, how do you want to explain to them why mommy keeps dressing like she raided a kindergarten store and took all their baby dresses?

3. SHE'S RUDE- I know no man wants a woman who cannot respect him. Not as a girlfriend, not as a wife. So if your woman is rude (to you and to every other person around) and she shows no traces of changing, don’t bother making her a wife. The cracks would soon begin to show and you would hate yourself if you wife her.

4. SHE'S EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE- if she is sweet today and she goes from that to extremely rude and not bothered in the next minute and then obnoxious, then you need to relax a bit. Find out what makes her flaky. If she’s just that emotionally unstable person, then think twice about the relationship before taking the next step. Bigger things come in marriage. If she can’t handle courtship, she won’t be able to handle marriage.

5. SHE LIES- lying partners are the worst ever. No reason why you should even be with them in relationships talk less of marriage. If she lies, run! You wife her and it is the beginning of your end!

6. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IN COMMON-- if you both can’t seem to find a common ground, then think twice. When the initial “gra gra” is gone and all you have left is great friendship, you would need things to spice your marriage up. This includes things you both love doing together. What happens when you hate what she loves and she hates what you love?

7. SHE MISMANAGES EVERYTHING- a woman who would rather buy an expensive weave than spend money on better things or who makes decisions that aren’t smart where money is concerned or who would urge you to spend money on the most expensive cars rather than invest in reasonable things would not make a good wife.

13 Characteristics you need to achieve maturity

As anyone ever told you that you are Immature or that you should show maturity?

It is not a nice thing to hear that, but the truth is, if such statement annoys you then you are truly not a matured person because maturity refers to our ability to understand and manage our emotions, actions and thoughts. Maturity is what enables us to create the life we desire. A life filled with happiness and fulfillment.

Here are the things you should do to be a matured person.

1: You Should Be Approachable: To achieve maturity you should be easy to get along with and people should feel comfortable approaching you.

2. Be Humble: The hardest words in the English language to say are “I’m sorry” and “I was wrong”. Learn to say them. These words are growth words; they grow you as a person. There are times when you will be right in life, despite what others have said. Instead of rushing to say “I told you so,” realize that everyone has a different view of reality. You don’t need to gain satisfaction by gloating about an outcome. People will respect you when they see that you are willing to admit your mistakes, and when you are big enough to just let things go.

3. You Should Be Dependable: Maturity means dependability and coming through in a crisis. When you say you are going to do something, do everything in your power to make it happen. If you find out you cannot do something you said you were going to do, be sure to let the other party know why and explain alternative options. Get organized in life so that people learn that they can depend on you and know that when you say you will do something they can guarantee that what you say is golden.

4. Don't Be Judgmental: Variety makes the world a more beautiful place. Even when you disagree with people, don't pay attention to the need to criticise them. Instead, respect their right to their beliefs and correct them gently.

5. Have a Calm demeanor: It’s hard to be calm 100% of the time but you should endeavour to remain calm the majority of the time. Best decisions are made when the blood is calm

6. Seek Alternative Views on Issues When Necessary: Knowing that the way things are done can always be improved, matured people are expected to willingly seek out the opinions and views of others. Don't feel threatened when people disagree with you. Pay attention to them and learn from them.

7. Pay Attention to Your Personal Growth: Meeting the challenges of tomorrow requires learning and development today. You should have a desire to learn and a thirst for knowledge. Learning and development activities should form a key part of your schedule.

8. Be Responsible For Your Actions: You should learn to take responsibility for your own life. You should understand that your current circumstances are a result of the decisions you have taken up to now. When something goes wrong, do not rush to blame others rather try to identify what you can do differently the next time and develop a plan to implement these changes.

9. Be Flexible: to achieve maturity, you should learn to see each situation as unique and you can adapt your style accordingly. Matured people don't run complaining when things go wrong, they are always in control of the situation.

10. Learn to Exercise Patience: It is true what they say: the best things in life often take time to come to fruition. You should be willing to pass up immediate pleasure or rewards and realize that sometimes the best solution to a problem is to go for the resolution that gives us long-term gain.

11. Have Knowledge and Vision: Knowledge to know that you will not always have the needed answers/solution to a problem and Vision so that once you identify the problem, you can visualize a solution and research the best way to implement that solution.

12. Have a Sense of Humour: You don’t have to take yourself too seriously. You should be able to enjoy a good laugh with friends and colleagues, even when you are the butt of the joke.

13. Talk less and Do More: Don't be a talker, be a doer! So many people have good intentions but they never follow through on them. To achieve maturity you should learn not to spend your entire life thinking of all the ways you can do things and then end up doing nothing.